My advice to myself

Something everyone who's reading this blog need to know is that I write this stuff, this mambojumbo, these beliefs, solely as advice to myself. It's a gift that I have, and yes I see it as a gift, to be able to be my very own therapist. I have written some amazing things, and I can go back to re-read my posts to be reminded. 

This blog is my sacred place and I'm really proud of it. I LOVE the fact that people from more than 20 countries have come to visit my blog over the years and I am so grateful for the comments that are posted by people who I don't know or have a personal connection to. I don't think you know how much that means, especially since my number one dream in this life is to be able to stand in front of a crowd of thousands of people whom have read what I've wrote and who I can inspire.

Like I wrote in my last post, I have a lot of time to think these days. I'm reading, listening to clips, watching videos online etc. All to collect inspiration. This morning, 2 things came across me that was so spot on that it actually gave me chills.

I'm gonna write about the first thing in this post and the second thing in the next one.

Listen to this:

In order for new, better things to come in to your life you need to make sure you have space for it. 

I think I can speak for the most of us when I say that we all want more of what we love. We would like to travel more, have more money, more energy to do things, more clothing etc etc. Right?

But..we can't ask for more when we have our hands full. Where would it fit? And this is a metaphor. Try to visualize the things, the stresses, the thoughts that you're holding on to, as if you're holding it in your hands. For me it would be:

-the struggle of having the perfect body

-the stress of not having enough money

-the anxious feeling of not finding my person

-all the people that I have not yet been able to forgive from the past

-the pressure I put on myself as an employee, to always do every task flawlessly 

I certainly have my hands full, because these are just a few examples. How can I ever expect new good things to come and just swoop all those things away and replace them? It won't happen until I let them go and make space for new things. 

I hope you understand what I'm trying to explain. It's all in your head. The negativity you hold on to is working as an invisible shield covering you, and making sure new better things can't find their way in. Plus, I also think that IF the good things were to make their way in anyways, they wouldn't last long because old thoughts, insecurities and habits have a way of destroying things. Negativity is so powerful, it's actually frightening. I have experienced that.

No one and nothing will ever be able to fix you. Your feelings toward yourself will. You are the example. You set the example of how life will treat you. Love you, treat yourself the way you want life and others to treat you. It makes perfect sense, at least it does for me. 

The expression "you have to truly love yourself before you can love someone else" should be rephrased to: "you have to truly love yourself before someone else can love you".