How to find true balance

Balance. We talk about balance in life. I even think I've written about it in this blog. But what is it?

It hit me a couple of weeks ago, that balance is extremely important, not just in how we choose to balance what we choose to do in life, but balance in the way we allow ourselves to lose balance sometimes.

It became clear to me that I've managed to find balance in many areas of my life. For example; I work really hard in periods, and then I chill some days. I workout 3-4 times a week, then I rest the other days. I eat very healthy during the week and allow myself to eat more and other stuff during the weekend. I meditate to keep my mood balanced, to not loose my temper and get stressed. I challenge myself in order to not stay in one place for too long. I see a psychologist in order to sort out my anxiety that I've been struggling with my entire life. I'm very outgoing in some settings, and in others, when I don't have to, I just enjoy being quiet and observe.

I'm really proud of my balanced lifestyle and my strong charachter. BUT; It has become such a routine for me to live this kind of life, that I can completely lose it sometimes if I realize that I've broken these patterns for some time.

Do you get where I'm going to? We need to see the bigger picture. The even bigger one than the bigger picture. We have to allow ourselves to deviate from our "normal behavior" in order to find real balance.

For example, I meditate every morning. When I for some reason don't do that for say 3-4 days, I get angry with myself for not doing it.
I don't eat bread on weekdays. If I for some reason long for a sandwich and eat one on a tuesday, I get angry with myself, for not following my "rules".

See? My life isn't balanced at all if I get upset with myself for not following my balanced life. 

I felt better just thinking about this. I think we all have some kind of rules that we follow in life, and we might get upset with our selves if we don't follow them. But don't. Because it really doesn't matter if your routine differs sometimes. And I'm not saying you should say fuck it to your routine, because it's really important to find routines that make you happy, healthy, motivated etc, but as long as you follow that for the most part, that's what's important!

So focus on what you do well, and don't spend any time thinking about or regretting why you did or didn't do something you weren't/were supposed to. Because today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can't get tomorrow back, so regret and self-loathing is a useless feeling. It's sadly a common feeling, but a completely useless one.

Find balance. Stay balanced. But be balanced enough to allow yourself to lose it sometimes too.