The importance of reaching out and be humble

You know what it feels like to be misunderstood right? When you try to communicate something that gets interpreted completely wrong. The other person reads something and comes up with a respond that doesn't match what you were expecting at all. A discussion might be the result. Or worse; a big fight.
For what?
Was it you who were sloppy when trying to explain? Or was it the other person who is to blame because he/she didn't understand what you were trying to say?

It is no ones fault. Misunderstandings created by miscommunication is more common than you think. You might think someone's upset with you, when that person feels the exactly the same way about you.
Because we all have a tendency to try and defend ourselves when we feel we are being treated poorly. So you say something in respond to make the other person feel as poorly treated as you, because you refuse to show how you really feel. But this turns into a circle of even more misunderstandings that eventually turn into something that can't be fixed.


What if you were to stop the circle and reach out? Be humble. Solve it. Talk about it. Face to face. Look into each others eyes and explain, and most importantly, be honest. Would you do it? Or be afraid of the pride issue?
Life is not a game. It is not about not being vulnerable, not about being the one on the upper hand, not about disrespecting other people's feelings, it is about finding a stability and be confident enough to be honest.

Not all fights or disputes develop from dishonesty, but a lot of them do.
I know from own experience, that when you try to act like you don't care, say things you don't mean to deliberately hurt someone, or try to push feelings away, it will only come back to bite you in the ass.
And regret is the worst feeling ever.

Next time you're about to act on impulse and say something you might regret, take a step back. Reflect, even if it's just a few seconds. Is it worth it?

Because remember; once you've said something or done something, it can be forgiven but it can never ever be erased.